I know, and I'm so sorry, Ven. It is upsetting and it took me a while to get my head round it. I actually stayed away from LJ completely for a few days, but I came back because there are so many good and genuine people here. Just remember, she did it to all of us, and none of us really know why. We're lucky we can relate to other people and maintain friendships without resorting to this sort of behaviour. It's a valuable lifeskill! *hugs*